BLOW en RESPONSE
This may be one of the first positions your mind calls up when imagining cunnilingus, however it’s just as good for anyone to receive! The receiver in this position lays on their back and spreads their legs to allow their partner full access to their body … and that’s it. Really, it may not be typical for the receiving partner so exercise so little control during sex, which is one of the reasons that this innocuous looking position can be such a switch up by letting them explore their passive side as they submit to their partner’s oral attentions. If it really is hard for them to just relax and lay back, restraints can always be added! For the partner giving the blow job, this is an excellent position to fully explore their erogenous zones - yes, you can use your mouth on the head and shaft of their penis, but this is also a time to explore different pressures and sensations along their testicles and the sensitive skin on the inside of their thighs and along their hips. If they’re not too ticklish, you can also add a feather teaser, but be sure they won’t reflexively flail their knees outward! Additionally, this is a great position for adding prostate massage to a blow job, whether manually, which is able to recreate a ‘come-hither’ motion so you can focus your hands elsewhere!
Position Difficulty: 1/5
RIDING HIGH
An oral sex position that givers and receivers know and love. The
receiver quite literally ‘rides high’ by kneeling over their partner’s mouth to
receive their oral-attentions, and not only does it put the perform performing
cunnilingus in a comfy position to lavish their attentions on their partner
while enjoying a great view of her enjoyment, but the rider also gets to choose
(and alternate) between passively enjoying or taking control with their own
movements. Of
course, depending on the receiver’s anatomy, this position may not be the best
for stimulating the clitoris which can always be remedied with a small and
unobtrusive vibrator. Some
may feel too ‘exposed’ by being on top, which is when adding things like
handcuffs and blindfolds to the partner who is on the bottom can not only make
the receiver more comfortable, it also turns up the kink! If the complaint
instead that the receiver feels like they want to give their partner
stimulation as well, they can either lean backwards slightly to give their
partner manual stimulation, or turn around in a ‘reverse’
high-riding position (which easily turns into a 69)!
Position Difficulty: 1/5
The HUMMINGBIRD
When
was the last time you thought about switching up positions when giving a blow job? The Hummingbird takes the standard
kneeling oral sex position and adds an animalistic dynamism to the act which
will drive the receiver wild! As
you both kneel, let the partner receiving the blow job guide themselves into
your mouth. If you’re confident in how much swagger you can convey while
crawling on your hands and knees, you can start the position with more of an
approach as you move toward them, licking your lips in anticipation. Once
in position, you won’t be able to use your hands, so have the receiver help as
you used your mouth to explore their length. Eye contact can be just the thing
to up the intimacy and intensity of the act. The
reality of many of the most daring of sex positions is that, frankly, they just
aren’t that comfortable (to be fair, we are diehard spooning-sex-in-the-morning fans).
The Hummingbird may not be sustainable for long if either of you have joint
problems, but discomfort can be managed by using thicker yoga mat; too comfy of
cushions or mattress might throw your balance off a bit. Additionally,
this position is not ideal if the partner giving oral likes to maintain total
control―even with restraint and communication it may be hard for the receiver
not to reflexively thrust, and you won’t have you hands to help stop it.
However, if you’re confident in your deep throating skills or like the idea of
having the receiving partner penetrate you mouth with full control, then this
would could as a ‘pro’ to this position!
Position Difficulty: 2/5
The
SNAIL
Who
says sex at a snail’s pace can’t also be intense? The Snail position is perfect
for deeper sensations without sacrificing the intimacy of face to face contact. An
excellent position to transition into from missionary, the receiving partner
raises their legs to meet their chest and puts their legs over their partner’s
shoulder. The topping partner can use their body weight to lean forward
onto the back of the receiving partner’s thighs to push them downward. The
motion for this sex position should be a gentle slide forward and back, with
knees and arms moving in concert almost as if their limbs are mimicking the
side of a shape as it moves from a parallelogram to a square and then back
again. The
receiving partner can use their hands (or a small vibe) to
stimulate their own erogenous zones to reach a blended orgasm; depending on
their ability to keep their hips elevated and the flexibility in their arms,
they may be able to gently stimulate other parts of their partner's erotic anatomy as
well! While
an excellent position choice for both vaginal and anal sex, the
deepness of penetration afforded by the Snail position means that plenty of
lubrication either from extensive foreplay or a water-based lubricant cannot be
skipped, and even then this sex position might not be a good match with a more well endowed partner. As
well, if this position calls to mind accidentally getting folded up in a sofa
bed … well it may take the most limber of us not to get a little tired of this
position after a while; one leg can be removed from the shoulder of the topping
partner to let the receiver stretch their back out a bit!
Position Difficulty: 2/5
REVERSE COWGIRL
A
position that requires deliberate movement rather than evolving from
non-penetrative play, Reverse Cowgirl is a sex position that is definitely
worth taking a moment to switch into. Being on top puts the receiver in perfect
control which lends itself to different body-sizes and fitness levels; you can
bob straight up and down or lean forward and ‘slide’ a backward and forward to
really stimulate your G-spot. This
doesn’t mean that you partner needs to lie back idly, they can help lift your
hips if you need extra support, or even use their core to bounce you up and
down if they’re strong enough! If you’re feeling a bit kinky, it also puts you
in a perfect position to receive some erotic spanking. With
the fantastic view your partner is getting during this partner, not to mention
that you may be using your hands on other sensitive parts of their atanomy, you both might be
worried that your ride might be over far too quickly. Adding a couples’ ring
like PINO™ can do just the thing, as well as offer
the receiver some powerful vibrations to bring them to a clitoral orgasm. If
you’re worried about feeling disconnected from your partner, this can be
remedied if your bed (or couch, table, etc) has a mirror beside it; you
can both watch each other’s expressions of pleasure while getting the
extra turn of a pseudo-sex tape situation―without the incriminating evidence!
Position Difficulty: 3.5/5
FOUR ON THE FLOOR
As
more and more couples begin to experiment with anal play such as anal sex, prostrate massage , and pegging, performing analingus, or rimming, is the next
sexy frontier. While you can rim someone as they lie in front of you on their
back, it may be difficult to keep their hips raised for long periods of time.
In the Four on the Floor position, the giver can focus their oral attentions
easily by spreading the receiver’s cheeks. It also lets either partner offer
extra stimulation of the clitoris or G-spot during to let an intense blended orgasm build and build. If
the receiver finds that their palms are getting sore from holding their weight,
a pillow can offer relief, or it can be adjusted so shoulders and elbows are
flat on the bed with hips high. While this position puts the giver in a prime
position to offer pleasure, it is definitely one of the more animalistic
positions for any type of sex. If the receiver feels disconnected from their
partner in this rimming position, you can try the Four on the Floor
position in front of a mirror. With a few of yourselves, you’re heightening the
kink factor without needing to worry about whether an adult home-made movie is going to end up in the wrong hands!
Position Difficulty: 1/5
CAT (Modified Coital Alignment Technique)
You
may have already heard about the coital alignment technique (or CAT) position,
which is a modification of missionary that offers hands-free clitoral
stimulation during sex, which is what many people require to achieve orgasm (as
opposed to penetration alone). This slow intimate sex position can
turn missionary into something amazing, which is why we like it so much, but
traditional CAT can sometimes be a bit tough for first-timers as the motion
used is completely different. To
begin the modified Coital Alignment Technique, start in missionary position
with the receiving partner’s legs between those of the thrusting partner.
The thrusting partner should enter and place themselves quite high above the
chest of their partner so their pelvises are aligned. From there, the
receiving partner will lay their legs flat between their partner’s and bring
them together. The thrusting partner will then shift their weight forward and
back along their partner’s body, keeping their hips close to their partner’s. For
all the reasons that this position can be very sensual - it’s slow and very
intimate - it can also make it unsuitable for certain situations or moods, just ones that are
perfect for different time, places and bodies. If
the thrusting partner has diminished strength in their arms, they might find
this position tiring (though wrapping them under and behind the shoulders of
the receiving partner can lend support). If the partner on top finds that they
often have issues with orgasming prematurely, the pressure of thrusting
between their partner’s tightly closed legs might prove over-stimulating,
despite the slow pace. As
well, this position is a definite no go if your air conditioner is broken,
because it will make sure things get steamy in more ways than one!
Position Difficulty: 1.5/5
The
DECKCHAIR
The
receiving partner of this oral sexual position is able to lie back and luxuriate in
sensuous delight as their partner focuses their attentions (and both hands) on
their pleasure. The person performing cunnilingus can use pillows or
cushions - this is a great couch position - to support their neck if more comfortable.
Additionally, because their mouth will be lower and more squarely focused on
the vaginal opening, the receiver may be able to add a very petite clitoral
massager into
the mix. While
this is the perfect for receiving cunnilingus, its main drawback is that it does not
allow for reciprocation. As well, it is not an ideal position if the receiving
partner is self-conscious about eye contact with their partner, or their body
is significantly larger than their partner’s as the giver may have trouble
comfortably supporting them for long periods.
Position Difficulty: 1/5
The HARD LEAN
Are
you ready to lean back and relax? This is one of the best positions for the
receiving partner to lie back as their partner showers them with stimulation
all over their body. Suggest you add a small hand held massager to
the mix. This
position is particularly good for partners who have a smaller penis, as the angle and
legs-over-the-shoulder will allow for deeper penetration. The one tricky aspect
is getting the rhythm right, which is most easily done if the receiving partner
uses their forearm (flat on the ground or clasping their partner’s legs) as
support while the thrusting partner ‘bounces’ up in their kneeling position. Given
that this position is a using a lot of one partner’s movement, it may not be
ideal for a thrusting partner who is prone to sore knees from holding a
position for too long. While switching up roles can be fun from time
to time, if the receiving partner is not used to being so passive during sex,
they may find themselves bored, While this position certainly offers a visual treat to the penetrating
partner, if you are self conscious about your body it may leave you feeling
very exposed. Of course, that can also be managed with some creative
dress up outfits that allow for keeping some clothes on!
Position Difficulty: 2.5/5
The
INVERSE DIP
It’s
healthy to look at things from a different perspective every now and then. The
Inverse Dip position certainly offers that. This is a position without
inhibition, and with a little patience it offers the
receiver a long view up their own body and their partner’s, while thrusting
partner can take complete control and get an incredibly explicit view of. For
the same reasons, this position is awesome for anal sex, and allows much more physicality and
roughness than a lot of more conventional anal positions. Also, anytime you’re
having sex with your feet above your head, it tends to feel … naughtier somehow,
right? Where
it falls a little short, as you can probably see if the logistics of the
position in the pictured, is that the angle of penetration can be a little
unusual, and takes a bit of that patience we mentioned earlier to get it just
right. It’s got the 4/5 difficulty rating not because it’s a particularly
athletic position (it’s not really; with a pillow under the receiver’s
shoulders it’s actually pretty comfortable, depending on how vigorous the sex
is) but because of that angle. Depending on several different factors, he
might have to lean her hips higher or lower, or take a knee. This position
might lead into a standing pile driver type arrangement. Explore your options,
that’s what makes this such a fun position. You have to feel your way through
it.
Position Difficulty: 4/5
The
BOA
When
people think of positions where the receiving partner is in control, the usual
go to is the cowgirl position or it's reverse. Be introduced to the idea of being a power-bottom. While
in this position, which resembles missionary, the receiver is going to put their
quads to the test, so no skipping squats! While on the bottom, you can
use the side of your knees pressed against the hips or rib cage of your partner
to guide the pace of their movements, or even stop them just as their tip is
about to enter you,if you’re strong enough. If
you’re not in the mood for pillow-side play fighting, this position is also
perfect for a cozy skin to skin snuggle as the bottoming partner makes like a
boa constrictor to wrap their legs around their partner as tight as they can
for an extra intimate sensation. Even if it proves
tiring for the receiving partner, they can always loosen their grip of their
legs to relax a bit. If the topping partner is on the smaller side, which may
not be well served by positions where the receiving partner’s knees are
positioned wide apart, the up close way both bodies are positioned makes The Boa
a great sex position for using your favorite couples’ massager with a wide head to make sure that the external vibrating arm will hit all the
right spots as your hips shift from side to side!
Position Difficulty: 1.5/5
The
SIDE STRADDLE
Relaxed and low impact, the Side Straddle is nevertheless a deeply satisfying position - making it a great position for smaller penises. To
move into this sensual kama sutra position, the receiving partner first lies on
their side as illustrated. The top partner straddles their bottom leg to enter,
while their partner can bend their top leg to bring their knee to their chest
or let it remain only slightly bent for a tighter sensation. In this position,
both partners are able to rock together in the same rhythm for an intimate, yet
not necessarily exceedingly slow movement. It also lends itself well to
anal sex, or using a wearable couples massager, as the
snugness of body parts makes sure it will stay aligned with the clitoris. While
a perfect sex position for slower, more intimate sex, the Side Straddle does
not allow for a lot of participation from the receiving partner; while it can
be great for one partner to lavish attention on the other, it can get a bit
boring. You can add some extra excitement by adding silk restraints to create a ‘handle’ for
the top partner to hold on to.
Position Difficulty: 1/5
The
COLUMN
Want
a position that is sure to make your partner stand at attention? The Column is
a standing sex stand-by, but that doesn’t mean it’s always the easiest to pull
off! The receiving partner should stand with their hands against the wall,
bending slightly forward with their feet apart. The thrusting partner can use their
hands cupped around their buttocks to allow easier access during sex, and this
position also lends itself well to anal sex! The
Column is also a great sex position because both couples can be in control of
the speed and intensity of the action, either by letting the receiver push
against the wall or having the topping partner push them toward the wall. This
sexual position is perfect for tight places like showers and
small rooms, and great if you’re in a rush. What’s more, this position will stimulate her G-spot and the receiving partner can use a
small vibrator or finger on their clitoris. Then again, you can also add silk handcuffs to
experiment with restraint and role play! It
can become a little awkward if there’s a significant height difference between
the couple, but it’s nothing that can’t be overcome with some experimentation.
The receiver can put on a pair of sexy too-tall-to-actually-wear-out heels if
they’re too short, or they can be bent over a counter or couch if they’re too tall for the thrusting
partner.
Position Difficulty: 2.5/5
The
FULL FRONTAL
Straddling
your partner’s face for to receive cunnilingus is one of the best oral sex
positions, so why not return the favor? The
best thing about this blow job position is that depending on the size of your
partner, they can move their body upward and downward along yours to adjust the
type of attention they’re receiving. If they’re closer to your chest, they can
(gently) thrust into your mouth, or they can sit closer to your chin as you
explore the base of their shaft and testicles. You can also incorporate rimming! As
this position is most comfortable with your arms and hands under and behind the
partner on top, which means that the receiver is going to control a lot
of the movements. This means they will have to be very mindful that they don’t
get too excited and thrust too vigorously; we suggest using a ‘tap-out’ signal
as obviously you won’t be able to say a safe word! For
increased comfort, you may also want to use a firm cushion against the head
board to help support your neck while performing the full frontal. You can also
use the arm of a couch, but watch your partner’s knee doesn’t slip between the
cushions suddenly! Those
receiving should lend a helping hand when guiding themselves into their
partner’s mouth, and don’t be afraid to use the other to reach back and offer
them some reciprocal pleasure if you can reach!
Position Difficulty: 3.5/5
MOAN and GROAN
Moan and groan all night … thinking of a slow-moving mummy isn’t the sexiest of inspiration when it comes to exploring
spooky sex positions. Sometimes slow is the way to go, and this intimidating
sex position is a perfect example! The
receiving partner kneels on the edge of a couch while their partner enters from
behind. If balanced correctly, the topping partner will be able to stand
more or less still while holding on to their partner’s ankles, and the partner
can rock back and forth on their shins as they shift their weight. It may
take a while to get you there, but you’ll soon be totally wrapped up!
The
PIRATE
Shiver their timbers … if
you’re not opposed to navigating some rougher waters, this sex position is
definitely sea-worthy of pirates! The
topping partner gets to take the captain’s role as they enter their partner in
the missionary position, then lift up both their partner’s legs high to delve
into the deep. It’s perfect for adding a couples’ massager, and by adding
a cushion underneath the receiver’s hips, you can also use this position
for anal sex if
you’re in the mood or plundering some booty!
WITCHY
The
first illustrations of witches often depicted them in the nude, and you don’t
have to look very far to find some academic speculation of the sexual nature of
wickedness, especially when it comes to late night broomstick riding! This
position allows you to work your magic with a medium sized cordless massager on both your clitoris and the base of your
partner’s penis as your ride into the night, and the view will have your
partner spellbound!
The BAT
Vampires turn their world upside down. The Bat is a sex position so tough to pull off, you might want to leave it to the undead to enjoy. If you’re keen to try it, you’ll certainly need a very sturdy chin up bar, a lot of practice, and even more trust in the partner who is taking you under their wing and supporting both your weight. If you’ve really got a thirst for some vampire-role play, may we suggest simply adding some sensual biting and sucking into your love-making? After all, we are well into turtleneck season, and what would bring back memories of Halloween fun in your youth like a few hickies?
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