KINKY SEX

BLOW en RESPONSE

This may be one of the first positions your mind calls up when imagining cunnilingus, however it’s just as good for anyone to receive! The receiver in this position lays on their back and spreads their legs to allow their partner full access to their body … and that’s it. Really, it may not be typical for the receiving partner so exercise so little control during sex, which is one of the reasons that this innocuous looking position can be such a switch up by letting them explore their passive side as they submit to their partner’s oral attentions. If it really is hard for them to just relax and lay back, restraints can always be added! For the partner giving the blow job, this is an excellent position to fully explore their erogenous zones - yes, you can use your mouth on the head and shaft of their penis, but this is also a time to explore different pressures and sensations along their testicles and the sensitive skin on the inside of their thighs and along their hips. If they’re not too ticklish, you can also add a feather teaser, but be sure they won’t reflexively flail their knees outward! Additionally, this is a great position for adding prostate massage to a blow job, whether manually, which is able to recreate a ‘come-hither’ motion so you can focus your hands elsewhere!

Position Difficulty: 1/5

RIDING HIGH

An oral sex position that givers and receivers know and love. The receiver quite literally ‘rides high’ by kneeling over their partner’s mouth to receive their oral-attentions, and not only does it put the perform performing cunnilingus in a comfy position to lavish their attentions on their partner while enjoying a great view of her enjoyment, but the rider also gets to choose (and alternate) between passively enjoying or taking control with their own movements. Of course, depending on the receiver’s anatomy, this position may not be the best for stimulating the clitoris which can always be remedied with a small and unobtrusive vibrator. Some may feel too ‘exposed’ by being on top, which is when adding things like handcuffs and blindfolds to the partner who is on the bottom can not only make the receiver more comfortable, it also turns up the kink! If the complaint instead that the receiver feels like they want to give their partner stimulation as well, they can either lean backwards slightly to give their partner manual stimulation, or turn around in a ‘reverse’ high-riding position (which easily turns into a 69)!

Position Difficulty: 1/5

The HUMMINGBIRD

When was the last time you thought about switching up positions when giving a blow job? The Hummingbird takes the standard kneeling oral sex position and adds an animalistic dynamism to the act which will drive the receiver wild! As you both kneel, let the partner receiving the blow job guide themselves into your mouth. If you’re confident in how much swagger you can convey while crawling on your hands and knees, you can start the position with more of an approach as you move toward them, licking your lips in anticipation. Once in position, you won’t be able to use your hands, so have the receiver help as you used your mouth to explore their length. Eye contact can be just the thing to up the intimacy and intensity of the act. The reality of many of the most daring of sex positions is that, frankly, they just aren’t that comfortable (to be fair, we are diehard spooning-sex-in-the-morning fans). The Hummingbird may not be sustainable for long if either of you have joint problems, but discomfort can be managed by using thicker yoga mat; too comfy of cushions or mattress might throw your balance off a bit. Additionally, this position is not ideal if the partner giving oral likes to maintain total control―even with restraint and communication it may be hard for the receiver not to reflexively thrust, and you won’t have you hands to help stop it. However, if you’re confident in your deep throating skills or like the idea of having the receiving partner penetrate you mouth with full control, then this would could as a ‘pro’ to this position!

Position Difficulty: 2/5

The SNAIL

Who says sex at a snail’s pace can’t also be intense? The Snail position is perfect for deeper sensations without sacrificing the intimacy of face to face contact. An excellent position to transition into from missionary, the receiving partner raises their legs to meet their chest and puts their legs over their partner’s shoulder. The topping partner can use their body weight to lean forward onto the back of the receiving partner’s thighs to push them downward. The motion for this sex position should be a gentle slide forward and back, with knees and arms moving in concert almost as if their limbs are mimicking the side of a shape as it moves from a parallelogram to a square and then back again. The receiving partner can use their hands (or a small vibe) to stimulate their own erogenous zones to reach a blended orgasm; depending on their ability to keep their hips elevated and the flexibility in their arms, they may be able to gently stimulate other parts of their partner's erotic anatomy as well! While an excellent position choice for both vaginal and anal sex, the deepness of penetration afforded by the Snail position means that plenty of lubrication either from extensive foreplay or a water-based lubricant cannot be skipped, and even then this sex position might not be a good match with a more well endowed partner. As well, if this position calls to mind accidentally getting folded up in a sofa bed … well it may take the most limber of us not to get a little tired of this position after a while; one leg can be removed from the shoulder of the topping partner to let the receiver stretch their back out a bit!

Position Difficulty: 2/5

REVERSE COWGIRL

A position that requires deliberate movement rather than evolving from non-penetrative play, Reverse Cowgirl is a sex position that is definitely worth taking a moment to switch into. Being on top puts the receiver in perfect control which lends itself to different body-sizes and fitness levels; you can bob straight up and down or lean forward and ‘slide’ a backward and forward to really stimulate your G-spot. This doesn’t mean that you partner needs to lie back idly, they can help lift your hips if you need extra support, or even use their core to bounce you up and down if they’re strong enough! If you’re feeling a bit kinky, it also puts you in a perfect position to receive some erotic spanking. With the fantastic view your partner is getting during this partner, not to mention that you may be using your hands on other sensitive parts of their atanomy, you both might be worried that your ride might be over far too quickly. Adding a couples’ ring like PINO™ can do just the thing, as well as offer the receiver some powerful vibrations to bring them to a clitoral orgasm. If you’re worried about feeling disconnected from your partner, this can be remedied if your bed (or couch, table, etc) has a mirror beside it; you can  both watch each other’s expressions of pleasure while getting the extra turn of a pseudo-sex tape situation―without the incriminating evidence!

Position Difficulty: 3.5/5

FOUR ON THE FLOOR

As more and more couples begin to experiment with anal play such as anal sex, prostrate massage , and pegging, performing analingus, or rimming, is the next sexy frontier. While you can rim someone as they lie in front of you on their back, it may be difficult to keep their hips raised for long periods of time. In the Four on the Floor position, the giver can focus their oral attentions easily by spreading the receiver’s cheeks. It also lets either partner offer extra stimulation of the clitoris or G-spot during to let an intense blended orgasm build and build. If the receiver finds that their palms are getting sore from holding their weight, a pillow can offer relief, or it can be adjusted so shoulders and elbows are flat on the bed with hips high. While this position puts the giver in a prime position to offer pleasure, it is definitely one of the more animalistic positions for any type of sex. If the receiver feels disconnected from their partner in this rimming position, you can try the Four on the Floor position in front of a mirror. With a few of yourselves, you’re heightening the kink factor without needing to worry about whether an adult home-made movie is going to end up in the wrong hands!

Position Difficulty: 1/5

CAT (Modified Coital Alignment Technique)

You may have already heard about the coital alignment technique (or CAT) position, which is a modification of missionary that offers hands-free clitoral stimulation during sex, which is what many people require to achieve orgasm (as opposed to penetration alone). This slow intimate sex position can turn missionary into something amazing, which is why we like it so much, but traditional CAT can sometimes be a bit tough for first-timers as the motion used is completely different. To begin the modified Coital Alignment Technique, start in missionary position with the receiving partner’s legs between those of the thrusting partner.  The thrusting partner should enter and place themselves quite high above the chest of their partner so their pelvises are aligned.  From there, the receiving partner will lay their legs flat between their partner’s and bring them together. The thrusting partner will then shift their weight forward and back along their partner’s body, keeping their hips close to their partner’s. For all the reasons that this position can be very sensual - it’s slow and very intimate - it can also make it unsuitable for certain situations or moods, just ones that are perfect for different time, places and bodies. If the thrusting partner has diminished strength in their arms, they might find this position tiring (though wrapping them under and behind the shoulders of the receiving partner can lend support). If the partner on top finds that they often have issues with orgasming prematurely, the pressure of thrusting between their partner’s tightly closed legs might prove over-stimulating, despite the slow pace. As well, this position is a definite no go if your air conditioner is broken, because it will make sure things get steamy in more ways than one!

Position Difficulty: 1.5/5

The DECKCHAIR

The receiving partner of this oral sexual position is able to lie back and luxuriate in sensuous delight as their partner focuses their attentions (and both hands) on their pleasure. The person performing cunnilingus can use pillows or cushions - this is a great couch position - to support their neck if more comfortable. Additionally, because their mouth will be lower and more squarely focused on the vaginal opening, the receiver may be able to add a very petite clitoral massager into the mix. While this is the perfect for receiving cunnilingus, its main drawback is that it does not allow for reciprocation. As well, it is not an ideal position if the receiving partner is self-conscious about eye contact with their partner, or their body is significantly larger than their partner’s as the giver may have trouble comfortably supporting them for long periods.

Position Difficulty: 1/5

The HARD LEAN

Are you ready to lean back and relax? This is one of the best positions for the receiving partner to lie back as their partner showers them with stimulation all over their body. Suggest you add a small hand held massager to the mix. This position is particularly good for partners who have a smaller penis, as the angle and legs-over-the-shoulder will allow for deeper penetration. The one tricky aspect is getting the rhythm right, which is most easily done if the receiving partner uses their forearm (flat on the ground or clasping their partner’s legs) as support while the thrusting partner ‘bounces’ up in their kneeling position. Given that this position is a using a lot of one partner’s movement, it may not be ideal for a thrusting partner who is prone to sore knees from holding a position for too long. While switching up roles can be fun from time to time, if the receiving partner is not used to being so passive during sex, they may find themselves bored, While this position certainly offers a visual treat to the penetrating partner, if you are self conscious about your body it may leave you feeling very exposed.  Of course, that can also be managed with some creative dress up outfits that allow for keeping some clothes on!

Position Difficulty: 2.5/5

The INVERSE DIP

It’s healthy to look at things from a different perspective every now and then. The Inverse Dip position certainly offers that. This is a position without inhibition, and with a little patience it offers the receiver a long view up their own body and their partner’s, while thrusting partner can take complete control and get an incredibly explicit view of. For the same reasons, this position is awesome for anal sex, and allows much more physicality and roughness than a lot of more conventional anal positions. Also, anytime you’re having sex with your feet above your head, it tends to feel … naughtier somehow, right? Where it falls a little short, as you can probably see if the logistics of the position in the pictured, is that the angle of penetration can be a little unusual, and takes a bit of that patience we mentioned earlier to get it just right. It’s got the 4/5 difficulty rating not because it’s a particularly athletic position (it’s not really; with a pillow under the receiver’s shoulders it’s actually pretty comfortable, depending on how vigorous the sex is) but because of that angle. Depending on several different factors, he might have to lean her hips higher or lower, or take a knee. This position might lead into a standing pile driver type arrangement. Explore your options, that’s what makes this such a fun position. You have to feel your way through it.

Position Difficulty: 4/5

The BOA

When people think of positions where the receiving partner is in control, the usual go to is the cowgirl position or it's reverse. Be introduced to the idea of being a power-bottom. While in this position, which resembles missionary, the receiver is going to put their quads to the test, so no skipping squats! While on the bottom, you can use the side of your knees pressed against the hips or rib cage of your partner to guide the pace of their movements, or even stop them just as their tip is about to enter you,if you’re strong enough. If you’re not in the mood for pillow-side play fighting, this position is also perfect for a cozy skin to skin snuggle as the bottoming partner makes like a boa constrictor to wrap their legs around their partner as tight as they can for an extra intimate sensation. Even if it proves tiring for the receiving partner, they can always loosen their grip of their legs to relax a bit. If the topping partner is on the smaller side, which may not be well served by positions where the receiving partner’s knees are positioned wide apart, the up close way both bodies are positioned makes The Boa a great sex position for using your favorite couples’ massager with a wide head to make sure that the external  vibrating arm will hit all the right spots as your hips shift from side to side!

Position Difficulty: 1.5/5

The SIDE STRADDLE

Relaxed and low impact, the Side Straddle is nevertheless a deeply satisfying position - making it a great position for smaller penises. To move into this sensual kama sutra position, the receiving partner first lies on their side as illustrated. The top partner straddles their bottom leg to enter, while their partner can bend their top leg to bring their knee to their chest or let it remain only slightly bent for a tighter sensation. In this position, both partners are able to rock together in the same rhythm for an intimate, yet not necessarily exceedingly slow movement.  It also lends itself well to anal sex, or using a wearable couples massager, as the snugness of body parts makes sure it will stay aligned with the clitoris. While a perfect sex position for slower, more intimate sex, the Side Straddle does not allow for a lot of participation from the receiving partner; while it can be great for one partner to lavish attention on the other, it can get a bit boring. You can add some extra excitement by adding silk restraints to create a ‘handle’ for the top partner to hold on to.

Position Difficulty: 1/5

The COLUMN

Want a position that is sure to make your partner stand at attention? The Column is a standing sex stand-by, but that doesn’t mean it’s always the easiest to pull off! The receiving partner should stand with their hands against the wall, bending slightly forward with their feet apart. The thrusting partner can use their hands cupped around their buttocks to allow easier access during sex, and this position also lends itself well to anal sex! The Column is also a great sex position because both couples can be in control of the speed and intensity of the action, either by letting the receiver push against the wall or having the topping partner push them toward the wall. This sexual position is perfect for tight places like showers and small rooms, and great if you’re in a rush. What’s more, this position will stimulate her G-spot and the receiving partner can use a small vibrator or finger on their clitoris. Then again, you can also add silk handcuffs to experiment with restraint and role play! It can become a little awkward if there’s a significant height difference between the couple, but it’s nothing that can’t be overcome with some experimentation. The receiver can put on a pair of sexy too-tall-to-actually-wear-out heels if they’re too short, or they can be bent over a counter or couch if they’re too tall for the thrusting partner.

Position Difficulty: 2.5/5

The FULL FRONTAL

Straddling your partner’s face for to receive cunnilingus is one of the best oral sex positions, so why not return the favor? The best thing about this blow job position is that depending on the size of your partner, they can move their body upward and downward along yours to adjust the type of attention they’re receiving. If they’re closer to your chest, they can (gently) thrust into your mouth, or they can sit closer to your chin as you explore the base of their shaft and testicles. You can also incorporate rimming! As this position is most comfortable with your arms and hands under and behind the partner on top, which means that the receiver is going to control a lot of the movements. This means they will have to be very mindful that they don’t get too excited and thrust too vigorously; we suggest using a ‘tap-out’ signal as obviously you won’t be able to say a safe word! For increased comfort, you may also want to use a firm cushion against the head board to help support your neck while performing the full frontal. You can also use the arm of a couch, but watch your partner’s knee doesn’t slip between the cushions suddenly! Those receiving should lend a helping hand when guiding themselves into their partner’s mouth, and don’t be afraid to use the other to reach back and offer them some reciprocal pleasure if you can reach!

Position Difficulty: 3.5/5

MOAN and GROAN

Moan and groan all night … thinking of a slow-moving mummy isn’t the sexiest of inspiration when it comes to exploring spooky sex positions. Sometimes slow is the way to go, and this intimidating sex position is a perfect example! The receiving partner kneels on the edge of a couch while their partner enters from behind.  If balanced correctly, the topping partner will be able to stand more or less still while holding on to their partner’s ankles, and the partner can rock back and forth on their shins as they shift their weight.  It may take a while to get you there, but you’ll soon be totally wrapped up!

The PIRATE

Shiver their timbers … if you’re not opposed to navigating some rougher waters, this sex position is definitely sea-worthy of pirates! The topping partner gets to take the captain’s role as they enter their partner in the missionary position, then lift up both their partner’s legs high to delve into the deep. It’s perfect for adding a couples’ massager, and by adding a cushion underneath the receiver’s hips, you can also use this position for anal sex if you’re in the mood or plundering some booty!

WITCHY

The first illustrations of witches often depicted them in the nude, and you don’t have to look very far to find some academic speculation of the sexual nature of wickedness, especially when it comes to late night broomstick riding! This position allows you to work your magic with a medium sized cordless massager on both your clitoris and the base of your partner’s penis as your ride into the night, and the view will have your partner spellbound!

The BAT

Vampires turn their world upside down. The Bat is a sex position so tough to pull off, you might want to leave it to the undead to enjoy. If you’re keen to try it, you’ll certainly need a very sturdy chin up bar, a lot of practice, and even more trust in the partner who is taking you under their wing and supporting both your weight. If you’ve really got a thirst for some vampire-role play, may we suggest simply adding some sensual biting and sucking into your love-making? After all, we are well into turtleneck season, and what would bring back memories of Halloween fun in your youth like a few hickies?

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