PUT HER IN CONTROL

Get Her Behind The Wheel

In BDSM, dominance and submission aren’t necessarily cut and dried roles, so explore her dominant side.

ROCKING HORSE

This position brings you up close and intimate in ways the usual woman-on-top sex positions don’t, and by having him sit upright, it can also be much easier for your movement as well. While he leans back onto his hands, yours are free to run over his chest, neck and back, or you can simply lean back, place your hands on his knees, and grind against his hips. Dial up the heat in this position with the addition of a vibrating couples' ring. All this face-to-face closeness leaves him open to intense teasing of his major erogenous zones. With her body-weight on top he’ll have no choice but to submit to the very best sort of torture. Any position requiring kneeling or crossed legs can get uncomfortable, but it can easily be adapted if your partner stretches his legs straight and lies flat, letting you pin his legs and arms down against the bed. 
(Position Difficulty: 1/5)

 LOCK and KEY

Not all these positions put you n top. This modification of missionary allows you to use your thighs and knees, locked tightly around his hips, to both elevate your own hips towards him and also give you control of the depth of his thrusts. It’s like the missionary sex position, except you’re in control from beneath. Remaining face to face, you can frustrate his efforts to enter you deeply while giving complete view of your body. If you’re strong enough, you can also have him support himself entirely with his legs and stimulate you manually as you please. 

You can both decide how active your partner will be as suits the mood – and your fantasies. He can remain still as you push yourself on him, or actively strain against your locked legs.

It does take a fair amount of strength to keep your legs gripping tight, so use your arms wrapped around the back of his knees or his forearms to help push your hips upwards. 
(Position Difficulty 2/5)

 KISS of LIFE

While straddling your partner as he performs oral may be the go-to dominant position, you really can’t beat this position in terms of heat and passion. Easiest against a wall or while you’re sitting on the edge of a bed, you will get an amazing view of him beneath you. You can attempt this position without back support to truly challenge your partner, or let him use that support to free up his hands to cup your bottom or stimulate you manually. And of course, his hair is easily accessible. We genuinely struggle to think of any downsides to oral, but we do sympathize with knee-soreness when it comes to extended sessions. Cushions can help with this, but be aware they can destabilize your partner if too slippery. 

(Position Difficulty: 2.5/5)

HOT SEAT

The Hot Seat does anything but let her sit back and relax. While he needs the flexibility to curl backward, she will need balance and muscle control to hold him there, and to move up and down on him. To lend further support, both can clasp each other’s forearms to facilitate your movements―which will only need to be minor in range to create some major pleasure. This position is also great for anal sex, putting her in control of depth and speed. Requiring both flexibility from him and extreme care from her, she may not want to stay in the hot seat too long! 
(Position Difficulty: 4/5)

BRIDGE

This position is for that special yoga-enthusiast in your life. After he bends backwards into the bridge position, she straddles him and moves up and down, shifting weight from her toes to heels, completely controlling the speed and depth. Because her body isn’t needed for support, her hands are free to dial up the heat with a small hand held clitoral vibe. It does take a heroic amount of flexibility, not to mention upper body strength. If her partner is up to the challenge, their respective height differences may also make movement difficult for her. 
(Position Difficulty: 5/5)