Poem Radhika Goyal
It’s not like women talk about masturbation over tea and samosas. Jokes about masturbation are usually about guys. Even slightly more open sex-ed classes sometimes tell boys it’s normal to masturbate but just skip the topic when it comes to girls. When girls are told about sex it’s 'be careful you’ll get pregnant'. No one mentions, 'hey, you’ll get turned on, so masturbation could be very, um, handy'.
We don’t we talk about girls masturbating, their sexual desires and needs which are physical, and that women think of sex by itself, not only when they are in love. Masturbation is an important way in which we have a relationship with our selves and get to understand our sexual natures, fantasies and preferences. That’s the foundation of healthier and happier sex lives.
But when we rarely acknowledge that women masturbate, the fact that they have fantasies. It's not so easy to find porn that’s made for female desire, not primarily men’s. 100 women responded to this survey about their masturbation, their habits and preferences.
On the few occasions female masturbation comes up, so do even more myths, discouragements and disguised hai taubas. It’s true. People are uncomfortable with the thought of female masturbation. No one is sending women postcards from Masturbation Island with the words “wish you were here” scribbled on them! Their squirms and squeamishness fell into 5 categories of messages – Denial, Voyeurism, Sexual Doom, Medical Disaster, Moral Outrage.
Ok, so for any confusion remaining on whether women masturbate or not, and whether only love lights them, up, let’s say confusion over. 1/3 of women said they masturbated every day and 1/3 twice a week. 16% 3-4 times a week. One person in our survey said she did not masturbate at all.
How long it takes women to come depended on their bodies and natures and also their context – did they have enough privacy or not, which many don’t.
But on average it’s different strokes of the clock for different folk.
'Women like erotica, men like porn.' Who knows what it means when one person’s romance novel is another’s porn and one person’s erotica is another’s yawn. A notable number of women did prefer to read but more than half preferred visual stimuli.
When it came to words, people leaned towards reading erotic novellas and passages. And literotica.com is every erotic writing fan’s free and endless fantasy land of possibilities.
80% of those who preferred visuals chose porn, while others relied on their own mind movies and 20% of those who preferred images, also preferred their own imaginations.
Those who preferred their own imaginations made up a good 14% of the total number of people.
About 10% said they did not need anything or had precise preferences like thinking of an ex-lover.
People’s masturbation aids fell into three categories.
One was the Organic method. 14% people preferred using what God gave them - their fingers - to masturbate.
24% preferred water - hand showers, jet sprays - good, clean fun.
The final category was Domestic. Some people like to find a solution at home, and they ranged from traditional to inventive. They made up the largest number at 54%.
A notable appearance was made by the toothbrush which 13% of this number employed.
The answers showed us one thing for sure. When she’s gotta do it she’s going to do it anywhere.
People got horny in buses, trains and most of all in offices. Well, if you can’t get off work you may as well get off at work!
Many people had willfully masturbated in front of others. Some had done it while their roommates, siblings or relatives were sleeping next to them. Many had also been walked in on and the result was either shock or embarrassment or good old fashioned desi denial – if you don’t say it I’ll pretend I didn’t see it.
People shared their funny or interesting masturbation stories with candor, humour, cringes and open-heartedness. Here’s a selection of the sweetest, funniest ones.
Rukavat Ke Liye Khed Hai / Girl Interrupted
Animal Lovers - Some people learned they love animals. Some people discovered their pets had opinions on them petting themselves.
Accident Ho Gaya - Every now and then a mishap happened though none requiring odd explanations at the hospital.
Sab Kuch Dikhta Hai - Sometimes people imagined they wouldn’t be seen and then were – often in unexpected ways.
Columbine Thinks She Discovered America - Some people considered themselves pioneers; others unique.
Iss Route Ki Sabhi Linein Vyast Hai - Where there is ishq, there is complaint!
Survey Design Roohi Bhatia
Survey Analysis Paromita Vohra, Tanya Mishra
Graphics Debasmita Das
Synopisis: If in the mood, even a jerky auto-rickshaw can lead one to the big O. And while water-jets and table corners are good enough, old vibrating Nokia phones can give smashing orgasms, too. The women who participated in the survey recalled all the ridiculous comments that came their way while talking about masturbation. One respondent was told, “Your vagina would seal itself and sex will be painful.” Another one was told that masturbation will make her blind. The survey results also re-stated some old myths: 21% of respondents said they were told at some point that women masturbating is just not possible. While these myths blinded many, some 24% of the women surveyed were busy pleasuring themselves with water jets; another 14% simply used their hands. Others used just about anything - vegetables, toothbrushes, bottles, and even ice cubes. And they did it quite often. Over 30% of the women masturbated daily; an equal number did it once or twice a week. And who’d have thought they did it in offices, hostel rooms, trains, auto-rickshaws, buses and even on horseback? Touching the right spots is all that matters, after all! The survey found that 80% of them masturbated while consuming pornbooks, pictures or videos. 25% of adult website Pornhub's users in India are female, higher than the global average of 23%. They were most commonly caught in the act by their mothers, hostel wardens, grandmothers, siblings, domestic helps, and roommates, but only if they were caught at all; most finished the business quite quickly, getting an orgasm in between 5 and 10 minutes.
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